HORMONES ARE FROM HEAVEN AND THEY CAN BRING A COUPLE CLOSER THAN EVER

Remember the wonderful groundbreaking book “Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus” by John Gray PhD? Well, he and his colleagues are at it again with a new one called “Why Mars & Venus Collide” and it’s about improving those relations and the stress they cause. We function in separate worlds, says Gray. But in today’s hectic career-oriented environment, relationships have become a lot more complicated with very high levels of mutual stress. To add to this overload, both of us are completely unaware that we are actually hardwired to act differently to most things. It is a common scenario to see a husband returning from work stressed out and anxious to kick back on the couch and watch TV. The wife returns as well in the same frame of mind, but she wants to talk about it. Obviously neither is on the same page, so anger and resentment result.

In this new, almost instruction manual, Professor Gray explains and arms the parties and focuses on the ways that both of them mismanage and misinterpret the stress in each other’s lives. In one section he offers 100 special ways to repair relations…how good is that?

We see that the woman does not really want to henpeck the man, nor does the man want to ignore the woman. But in the case of the man, his natural biological withdrawal is a way for him to replenish his depleted testosterone levels and restore his well-being. The woman’s need is for conversation and support to build her own stress-reducing hormone, oxytocin.

In this John Gray offers a clear easy-to-understand program to bridge the gap. What used to be annoying can now become humorous. Where once we felt frustrated or helpless in our attempts to communicate our love, as well as our needs, there is a glimmer of hope for the couple well-being.